Will my girlfriend ever orgasm?

by Blake
(Temple)

I am 17yrs old and my girlfriend is 16yrs old. We were both virgins until this past September. We have probably had sex 40x's since then. Every time we finish having sex my girl tells me that she felt unbelievably good and she was very satisfied.

We have tried all kinds of new techniques in our sexual journey. But after all this time she has never climaxed. I rub, lick, and fiddle around with her clit too but this never seems to help.

Another thing is that a lot of times we will be doing something sexually and she will tell me that she has like a knot in her stomach and she feels like she has to go pee, and we always stop momentarily when that happens. I am wondering, is that her about top orgasm?

Reply:

To be honest it is not straight forward to give you a correct answer.

Each woman experiences sex in a different way. When she comes close to an orgasm an unknown feeling may prevent her from ‘finishing off’.
There are many ways to go about it.

Now, don’t take me wrong, one of the easiest ways is to buy her a vibrator and let her masturbate by herself. She needs to relax completely.

Masturbation lets her understand her own body, what to expect, how and when. Once learned, then she can transfer this into real sex situation.

During sex you should not stop ‘momentarily’ when she has that feeling of having the ‘knob’ in her tummy; or a feeling to pee either.
It is a good idea to have sex in a place where it would not make any problem if she peed (bed is not good unless you have protective sheets).

Why? That feeling is often associated with orgasm and especially with female ejaculation.
What might happen is that she will squirt once she reaches her orgasm. This is not to be confused with pee, though it may feel very similar at the start.

She needs to ‘let go’ of any inhibition. Only then her body will enter an orgasmic state. If she feels like pee, then let it happen. She should not hold back anything what follows.


At young age men tend to be jealous on masturbation and vibrators of their loved ones. However it will only help to improve your sex lives.
Orgasm can be a complete mystery. In your case, I believe, she is very close to it and she gets virtually scared not to have it because of her ‘strange (odd)’ feelings (you both stop once it starts happening).

Try experimenting for a while as I mentioned. You both are young and there is plenty of time to enjoy.

For you -- don’t get stressed over it. She feels good. Orgasm is great to have for sexual release. But the feeling of making love is as much important. She will get it sooner or later.
Keep us posted if any changes. I hope it will work for you both and soon.

And one more important thing: sex needs to be learned. Many people assume there will be straight away rockets and fireworks. Same as a person needs to learn to walk, sex is not any different.
Sometimes it is better, sometimes great; while at times it can be just a sort of ‘normal’.