Perfect Sex

How can you have perfect sex at the first time? You don’t even know if your partner can have an orgasm. As a matter of fact she doesn’t know it either.

How does one become an Olympic winner in swimming? By taking pills? By reading hundreds of books?

Or; does it require regular training? A practice? This is just one of the examples but whatever you think about it applies to everything from walking, running, driving a car, name it. And of course to perfect sex.

And one more question: Is everybody ‘number one’ in driving fast cars such as in Formulae 1? Or; in any sport discipline?

The common question of teenagers and virgins is 'how to have perfect sex for the first time'? By now you should be able to answer that question by yourself no matter how inexperienced you are.

She doesn’t have orgasm, I ejaculate too fast...

While many guys (and adult males) are virtually plagued with this the answer can be very different.
Let’s put premature ejaculation (opens new window) aside for a second. What if ‘she’ is not able to orgasm in time? For some females it takes ages to orgasm, some never can during sexual intercourse and others can’t get an orgasm even if they masturbate!

How on the earth would you satisfy a woman like that? If she never orgasm in her entire life? But you don’t ask that question. You are worried about your performance. Thinking you are not good enough.

And you want to be the best. To have that perfect sex. Who doesn’t? We all want to be the best.

Look at some great performers. Many of us envy how much money they make. We call some of them ‘sluts’, etc. But while watching a particular woman (man) performing so easily, how many of us think what is behind it? How much training went into it?

A singer (or a tennis player) may train 10-12 hours every day, be on diet, etc. Just to be in a perfect condition on stage for every one of us to enjoy. But we see only those few minutes and big money.

While you are living on pizza, drinking Cola, smoking weed and you want to be number ONE in sex for her!

Expecting a pill would do it for you.

If you eat certain pills do you become a TV star? So much for miracle pills.

To be number one in anything one must be well informed. That is reading and studying on the subject whenever she/he can. Live healthy lifestyle. Here is where some nutrition and supplements come, however they are only a minute part of the all picture.

And most important is practice. If we talk sex that is having lots of sex. As in anything else once you change your partner (have a new girlfriend) you need to re-learn most of it. Though you’ll have more experience and it will make a huge difference, still you need to learn from start.

The good analogy would be two dancers (let’s say in figure skating). Do you think if a guy will get a new partner he can go and perform straight away with her in public? No??? Or he does to learn dancing with HER as a PAIR? But he was a great dancer with other woman?

I hope you are getting the picture. To be good at sex requires constant learning.

How would you react to a question:

“I want to be this year’s World Champion in judo. Tell me what pills to use and what technique you recommend. Because I want to do it and now! I don’t want to hear negative answers.”

Should I comment on it? I can’t.

So what do we need to be good at sex (or anything else?)

• Be genuinely interested on subject and study it (reading, watching)

• Keep in great shape to perform well (that is diet, exercise, supplements...)

• Practice (to actually do it & experiment!)

• Accept that it is never same

• Communicate with partner. He/she has the same problem. Two of you can solve it better.

It takes many years to become good at it. And it may happen you’ll get a wrong partner and you can never make it good.

As in anything in our lives there are endless variations and combinations in sex. It is never same. Don’t expect it to be always ‘perfect’. It can happen it will feel miserable at a time. That is life. Learn to accept it (I felt like adding this important fact just behind ‘practice’).

If you can’t accept the fact ‘nothing is same’ you can’t be happy.

Nothing is same applies in everything. And even more to perfect sex. Because there is no such a thing as perfect sex. Or perfect - anything. We can have great sex though.

Puberty, growth, size of genitals, all those things in life one expects to have firm rules. Because someone’s brother is tall it doesn’t mean you have to as a result of it. If someone’s father has nine inch penis it doesn’t mean you must have same, you may end up with micro-penis. It is all nature and you are simply not a creator of it. If it was like that we all would be simply ‘perfect ‘and most likely doomed.

Reading on subject:

500 Lovemaking Tips & Sex Secrets

Better Sex Christians

Lick By Lick - How To Give Oral Sex And Have Her Begging For More

Blow By Blow - Expert Tips On How To Give Mind-blowing Oral Sex Jobs

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