Is it wrong??
by Angie
(Everett)
I turned 17 in May and my boyfriend turns 21 in December. My parents and sisters don't like him. Is it wrong for us to be dating behind their back and is it too big of an age difference?
Tibor’s Reply:
Hi Angie,
The age difference is no problem at all. It is important how you get alone. Love, understanding and communication are the key to a relationship.
You always respect and love your parents.
When it comes to a boyfriend it becomes your choice. He will not live or date your parents or your sisters. So it is not relevant if they like him or not. Of course, life would be much easier if they loved him. (It is likely you will not like your sister’s boyfriends. Will they leave him because of that?)
Question them and ask for a good reason. If you feel it is not like they say, you will have chance to prove them he is worth of you love. It will take patience and time.
Are there any genuine reasons for them not to like him? If yes, are these reasons true? And how they affect you?
What is important again is how you feel about him. Not what the others are thinking. If you are confident he is the right guy there is no reason for not dating him.
Always consult your own heart and feelings. Beware your boyfriend is genuine. Sometimes other’s can see (or they know things) about him you don’t. If you are sure he is good go for it.
Should you date him?
Answer these questions:
You need to make your own decision based on your answers. Remember, sometimes things don’t work out as expected. Maybe your relationship will end soon; maybe you will be together for life.
Unless you try you will never know.
In life we need to take a chance in order to find out. There are no guarantees. I know what I would do in your case.
I wish you best of luck
