How Do you Get A Girl To Notice You And Talk To You?

by Darrell
(Colorado)

I'm Nervous About Talking To A Girl And I'm 13.I Know That I Should Be Confident And Just Ask Her Out, But It’s Not That Easy For Me.....Please Help!

Reply:

While it is simple, it is difficult. Experience counts. And at your age it is close to impossible unless you change your behaviour a bit. Women love talking and it is one of the most important stages of courting.

Some are also shy and they would never start talking to you by themselves unless you initiate the conversation.
Most likely you feel the same.

It is all about the fear of rejection. People don’t go and talk to others because they are not sure about the response they’ll get. It is safer to avoid talk.

Even if you are an ordinary guy, girls are noticing you. You don’t need to do silly things to be noticed.

It needs most of all, to be approachable. If you never smile at them and don’t initiate the conversation they have not much incentive to do the same.

What to talk about? Any subject; except rude comments trying to show off. Simple ‘hello, how are you today?’ will do.
The best is to open your mouth and talk what you have on mind.
If you like her nails just pay her a compliment. Or shoes, dress. Just come up with the first sentence.

Not every girl will want to be ‘close’ to you. There is always a question of attraction between two people.
That has to be ‘tested’; you need to see the ‘signs’.

To ask her out it can be as simple as telling her there will be a great movie and you are looking for someone to go with you. What movies does do you like?

Possibilities are endless. Problem is one.
- To find courage to do that, risking being rejected.

Unless you’ll start to be an ‘easy talking’ guy, getting effortlessly into conversations it is very unlikely the girl would come to you on her own, she’s got her friends and she doesn’t need to risk the rejection as well.

It may take a while to establish closer friendship. But unless you show the other person your intentions the chance is low. Smile and a little longer eye contact will show you are interested in her.
If she smiles back and keeps the eye contact then she most likely likes you.

You need to initiate the conversation.

This will be difficult to do for any shy person even later in his life. It needs to be practiced and tested.
Some people are very natural at establishing a contact while for others it is a long learning process.

Unless you’ll do something the situation will not change.

If you mean not just a simple talk then you would read How to Flirt with a Woman (opens new window)